Some Things I Have Learned During My Twenty Years On This Planet

  1. Embrace the suck. You messed up, embrace it! It’s better than hiding it. Not only does it look better, it also feels better. So you messed up? You’re not the first one to mess up, and you’re surely not going to be the last. No one can hurt you with things that don’t bother you. You’re human. They’re human. All of us mess up, but not all of us embrace it. Embrace your suck, learn from it, and then go on. There’s nothing wrong with it.
  2. Dare to suck. I am told that this is a phrase penned by the band McFly. You know how sometimes when you strive to do/be something and it doesn’t really happen the way you want it to, or in the doses you want it to? I believe “Daring to suck” means that if your goal was to suck so bad, and I mean so, so, so bad- it wouldn’t be enough. That by making your goal to suck, by daring yourself to suck, you find out just how sucky you can not be.
  3. The Mitochondria is the powerhouse of the cell.
  4. Parents are not super-people. They’re just like you. They go through the same emotions you do.They say stuff they don’t mean, and they’re just as human as you are. They can be childish or silly, or even sometimes mean or annoying. It happens. Just think of them as grown up versions of you. Cut them some slack.
  5. Just because someone doesn’t love you the way you want them to, doesn’t mean that they don’t love you. There’s no set way to love someone. Don’t lose time with the people you love trying to get them to love you the way you want them to. Not all people do that. Just enjoy what you have with your loved ones.
  6. If you think you’re hearing voices, check your iPod. If iPod is off, see doctor.
  7. Whenever you are meeting someone who is different than you, look for the things that make you similar. It’s good to remind yourself that in the end of it all, we’re all the same. It makes it harder to hate people and, more importantly, it makes it harder to act on that hate. (Or whatever it is you feel towards them.)
  8. Never act on decisions you make at the middle of the night. Always sleep on it and see how you feel about it in the morning. If you still think it’s a good idea, go for it. If not, then you saved yourself from the trouble or embarrassment or.. etc.
  9. Stop trying to categorise yourself. It’s a waste of energy and time. You’re you. You are always you. And “you” isn’t necessarily one thing. You’re just you. It’s okay and it’s normal to feel lost, but don’t allow anyone (including yourself) to make you feel like you have to “fit in” somewhere to be validated as a person.
  10. Everyone’s weird. Don’t argue with me on this. Everyone. Yes, everyone is weird. Sure, there are different degrees of “weird”, but that solely depends on where you are and who you’re with.
  11. You are better than no one. So don’t ever act or speak as if you are. People do things for reasons you might never know and also might never understand. Just be thankful that you’re you.
  12. Always know that your opinion of you matters more than anyone else’s.
  13. Being a “nice person” shouldn’t only happen when you’re “in the mood” to be nice. In fact, be a nice person especially when you’re not in the mood to be nice. That’s when you’re truly a nice person.
  14. Never, I repeat, NEVER, compare yourself to others. NEVER. It only makes you bitter and insecure and maybe even cocky. By comparing yourself to others you start to see lesser and greater persons than yourself. And then you start to see where you stand among these people. Am I closer to the greater people? Am I with the lesser ones? And it becomes a habit. And then you get this sick belief that for you to matter, or for you to be interesting or funny or beautiful…etc., you have to be better than everyone else. Be content with who you are. Compare yourself to your past selves and see how far you’ve come. Everyone’s life is different, and we’re all going through different journeys. Keep your eyes on the road ahead of you and focus on yours.
  15. Always be open to new ideas. Don’t be stubborn. No matter how right your opinion feels, always try and see it from somebody else’s point of view. Don’t be afraid to test your opinions. If it’s right then you get the pleasure of proving it to yourself/others, and if it’s wrong, then you get a chance to make it right.
  16. When you’re feeling down and alone, don’t stay in your room feeling sorry for yourself. Get dressed, (put on whatever you want!), and then go hang out with your friends, or get out of the house and do something. Go have fun! Even if you really don’t feel like it. Just don’t stay in your room feeling sorry for yourself, it gets you nowhere.
  17. Don’t be afraid of looking/feeling stupid. Everyone’s done something that made them look/feel stupid. Don’t let the fear of looking/feeling stupid limit your chances to learn.
  18. Watching a comedy show goes a long way when you’re feeling very down and hopeless.
  19. Always wear your seat belt. ALWAYS.
  20. Never destroy your relationship with your family for something that has a chance of being temporary. It’s not worth it.
  21. Don’t spend too much time talking to people about who you are. Show them.
  22. People will not always be there for you. Not your best friends, not even your sisters/brothers. Try not to take it personally. It hurts, I know. But people have stuff going on as well. Give them the benefit of the doubt. But learn to rely on yourself. You be there for you. You don’t really need anyone else.
  23. Don’t always trust your first impression of someone.
  24. Finding a career path can be tough, but always work on finding your way. Do whatever it takes, and don’t feel like you have to “settle” for something.
  25. Start to really consider career options before your senior year. And be realistic. Don’t just say “doctor!” and think that’s it.
  26. No one hates reading. It’s just that they haven’t found the right book yet. Unless the actual physical act for reading is a bit difficult on them. If that’s the case, then I highly recommend audiobooks. Unabridged audiobooks, of course.
  27. LOTR gets better every time I watch it.
  28. The sun is a star.
  29. Always take the time to think about and reflect on the things that people say, and see if you agree with them. No matter who it comes from, i.e., your favorite celebrity, your parents, your friend, your favorite teacher, your political leader, your religious leaders… etc..
  30. When you want to call someone a “motherf***er” without them knowing, call them an “Oedipus” (pronounced ed-e-pus). (There is a long and interesting story behind this that you can read here: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Oedipus)
  31. Don’t waste time having stupid, petty arguments.
  32. Try to learn from others as much as you can. Learn from their failures and mistakes, learn from their success. Anything! Whatever comes to you, accept it.
  33. If you’re going to follow something- a religion, a teaching, a diet (a healthy one, of course)…etc.- try to learn all you can about it and practice it as honestly and as fully as you can.
  34. Change can be hard, but it is often good.
  35. Never stay lost in hopelessness. Always look for a way out.
  36. Don’t be pretentious. Don’t. It’s a dark path.
  37. Being positive doesn’t mean perceiving the world to be utterly peaceful, and full of rainbows and butterflies and all that jazz. Being positive means seeing that, despite all the horrible things that have happened to you, there’s always the chance of a silver lining, you just have to keep an eye out for it.
  38. Making/updating playlists is a really fun thing to do.
  39. The person you are and the things you do when you’re alone plays a big part in who you are and the things you do when you’re not alone.
  40. Read the news. Or watch it. Get a feel of what’s happening around the world. Don’t be ignorant about what’s going on. It’s good to know that things aren’t only messed up on your corner of the world. + future generations will one day be asking you about all this. Start preparing your answers.
  41. Desiderata, a poem by Max Ehrmann, is a nice summary of important things to remember always. (I recommend reading it while listening to Tom Hiddleston recite it. You can read/listen to it here: https://theoceaninsidemyhead.wordpress.com/2014/05/14/desiderata-by-max-ehrmann-read-by-tom-hiddleston/)
  42. Have a question? Google it! Google any question that comes to mind. There are tons upon tons of interesting things going on outside of you. They’re worth checking out.
  43. (I got this from Tumblr) If you’re having trouble being confident in yourself, try being confident in others. Like, “Wow her shirt is so awesome!” Or, “He has beautiful hair.” “What a calming face you have.” “She/he’s so nice.” Things like that. It helps.
  44. Don’t listen to anyone’s crap. Not even your own.
  45. Your relationship with yourself matters. You are a definite constant in your life, so there’s no point in avoiding/hating yourself. You’re only going to suffer by doing that. Try treating yourself the way you’d treat a friend or a kind, lost child. That’s a good place to start.
  46. Don’t ever lie to yourself. If you can fool yourself, think about how easily others will be able to fool you. Don’t do it, man. Trust me.
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2 thoughts on “Some Things I Have Learned During My Twenty Years On This Planet

  1. Embrace the suck. Hahah, nice.
    I like 13 and I love 14.
    I think I’m going to go and tweet 35.
    40. Yes! I like it when people know about basic current news, at the least. Educate yourself, people! Ignorance makes for lame conversations.
    42. Google is God.

    Awesome list 🙂

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